Showing posts with label Thoughts. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Thoughts. Show all posts

Wednesday, April 2, 2014

Why Yoga

If there's anything I've determined in my twenties, it's that life is crazy. It never slows down when you're working full time, building a foundation on your career and marriage, making an effort to spend time with friends and family, being there for your coworkers and trying at least in some capacity to stay sane. There has to be an outlet (or a few)--whether it's jogging, reading, going to church, cooking dinner, or binge-watching episodes of Downton Abbey (guilty). 

These days, I've turned to yoga as an outlet a couple times a week. Why Yoga?
...Because it feels so good to stretch for long periods of time. When I used to play basketball in high school, all I really wanted to do was lay there and stretch while my teammates ran endless drills. 
...Because it kicks my butt. We need to push our bodies out of their comfort zone sometimes. Keeps us humble. 
...Because it makes me feel strong...a six pack is literally impossible, but sexy shoulders? I'm in.
...Because it's important to feel ridiculous once in a while (seriously, duck pose is just not happening...)
...Because yoga is really just practicing breathing, which we all need to learn to do once in a while in this crazy life.

Our instructor says that if you are aware of your breath, you are practicing yoga. I always think of waves pulling in and pushing out as I breathe.



*Photos from our honeymoon in Costa Rica during one of the greatest sunsets I've ever seen.

Monday, January 27, 2014

Monday thoughts



Oh, hello, Monday, you old buzzkill. I used to think everyone around me had an easier time coping with life. But growing up is the realization that we are all experiencing the same feelings. 

We all cry, we all pray, we all get furious, we all doubt ourselves, we all screw up, we all want to be the cool kid, we all miss our moms, we all have bad habits, we all accidentally explode food in the microwave, we all have secrets big and small, we all fight the urge to run away, we all crave childhood summers, we all wish for more time, we all want a better life…

Of course these are generalizations, but you get the picture. We’re all human. As Plato is quoted as saying, “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.”

In 2014, I've promised myself to practice thankfulness -- being more mindful of the good coming my way in life. There is so much to be thankful for. 

:)

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Do you read books twice?

Right now I'm reading Traveling with Pomegranates by Sue Monk Kidd, who also wrote The Secret Life of Bees. In the former book she talks about her experience leading up to writing her best-selling novel about young Lily Melissa Owens.

It made me remember how much I loved that story when I read it several ago, and I thought, why not read it again? It's been so long since I've picked it up that it would feel almost new once more. And I'd probably view it differently at a new stage of my life. Then I started thinking--have I ever read a book multiple times? For as much as I love stories, I couldn't recall a time that I had. 

So, do you read books twice? Three times? More?

Here's my list of stories to re-read some day soon:

The Secret Life of Bees
A Tree Grows in Brooklyn 
The Hours
Pride and Prejudice
Wuthering Heights
The Great Gatsby
Their Eyes Were Watching God 
The Kin of Ata are Waiting for You (college requirement shout out. If you've never heard of this book, go check it out!)

Saturday, January 5, 2013

Ode to cats


There's something wonderful about a cat that can make you feel warm and fuzzy and relaxed (just like they are), smiling and rolling your eyes at their sense of entitlement and invasion of your personal space, wondering what they're chasing, chewing, staring at on the wall or out the window like they've just seen a ghost. If curiosity killed the cat, it surely created the cat as well. Yup, there's something wonderful about a cat. As Charles Dickens once said, "what greater gift than the love of a cat?"


Thanks for keeping me company on this rainy winter night, little Solly. :)

Monday, December 31, 2012

Years that ask questions


This quote has been one of my favorites ever since reading Their Eyes Were Watching God in high school (gosh, I miss those classics sometimes...)

I truly can't believe 2013 is upon us. I've always felt that time was rushing forward -- that the days and weeks and months and years were lunging past me uncontrollably -- and this year especially seemed to fly right on by. But time did stop on a few occasions for a few brief moments. Like this one. :) And those moments I cherish. 2012 taught me many things about myself, about life, about love, about starting a career. 2011 was a year of questions, but this year gave me some clarity, some definitive answers. Maybe that was true for you as well, or maybe your year was more uncertain. I have a feeling 2013 will bring many more challenges, questions, answers and great memories. 

How are you celebrating the close of 2012? We're going to watch the fireworks over Tower Bridge in Old Town Sac tonight. Happy New Year, everyone! See ya next year. ;)


*Photo from that dubious summer 2011 in Torrington, WY 

On kindness and Christmas

There's a nice man who works at the ticket booth in our parking garage. Whenever I swing by to leave work for the evening, he's there with a smile, a nod and a "have a good night!" It's a simple gesture, but it's become something familiar and pleasant. Sometimes I'll pick his line of cars at the exit just to wish him well and have him send me on my journey home. I don't know much about him. All I know is that his simple kindness makes a big difference... 
And speaking of kindness, our mantel (well, cabinet) with cards from family and friends reminds me how blessed we are. Hope you all had a wonderful holiday season! Andrew and I spent the weekend before Christmas in Los Angeles, visiting my aunt MaryAnn and her boyfriend Dominick and cruising through the crowded streets of Hollywood and Beverly Hills in her new car. We held a party (Kim came over!), went on a hike near Dodgers stadium, ate Mexican food on Olvera Street, browsed the Redondo Pier fish market and went on a long walk in Marina Del Rey with Andrew's brother Tony and his wife Jana. It was my first time meeting them and I couldn't have been happier to have an afternoon together! We spent Christmas in Grass Valley, opening presents, eating way too much as usual and watching "The Christmas Story" -- my favorite. :)

Friday, November 30, 2012

What's the best season for a wedding?


Winter, spring, summer or fall? We’re having a summer wedding (like many people do) but I love the idea of off-season celebrations.

A friend I used to work with told me about her winter wedding – there was a blizzard that left feet upon feet of snow where they were supposed to have their ceremony and the venue flooded! So, loved ones gathered at her parents' house. It was cramped, but family and friends pitched in to push away furniture, move in chairs and everyone squeezed inside for the day. It turned out unexpected, but became a great memory...and a funny story they can forever tell.

What do you think? What's the best season to tie the knot? Today is a rainy one throughout northern California, so here are some beautiful rainy weddings.

Sunday, November 4, 2012

My bucket list























Do you have a bucket list? 

I clearly remember that day in freshman English class at the computer lab, sitting next to my bff Katherine, as we typed up our dreams and goals. Our assignment? Create a 100-item bucket list.

The other day I was thinking of that list, wondering how my goals (however mundane or far-flung) may have changed since then. So I dug into my computer files, way back 10 years ago. Sheesh, was it really that long ago?? Katherine, we’re getting’ old!

Lo and behold, I found that list from 5th period English. I skimmed through it laughing and shaking my head. A lot of my dreams have remained the same (travel around the world, write a novel or two, learn to play the guitar, hike the P.C.T. ...) but some have changed completely (learn to yodel, ride all the roller coasters in the U.S., have lunch with Kobe Bryant??) What was my 9th grade mind thinking? Funny how 10 years can completely alter your perception of the world. But then again, the core of who we are and how we think stays pretty consistent, I believe.

I was proud to learn I've already accomplished some of those goals I wrote down that day (work for a while as a newspaper reporter, go skydiving, travel to Australia). And one item in particular on my bucket list made me smile. It said, "marry someone I trust and love." 

You see, dreams, goals, wishes (and buckets) do come true.

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

A brief haitus

Life advice: water and laptops don't mix. Ever. 

Yup, I drowned my loyal MacBook -- where I had all my notes and to-do lists and tidbits of writing for work and life and this blog and the wedding plans, all my photos, my email...EVERYTHING. I've gone three whole weeks without my laptop. In that time I've realized how much I rely on my technology, how frustrating it is to be cut off from it, and even how easy and sometimes refreshing it is to live without it for a while. 

Would you, or have you, ever given up your computer? Your smartphone? Your TV? Everyone should try logging off once in a while. Just don't do what I clumsily did and give your thirsty keyboard a sip of water, k?

I'll be returning from my blog break shortly...and bombard you with a slew of new posts that have been locked up on my hard-drive drying out. :)


*Wall art from Etsy. Made me laugh!

Tuesday, September 11, 2012

Tatoos


Would you ever get a tattoo? I've thought about it. 


The coolest tattoo I’ve ever seen was on a girl who I used to work with in college. She had this beautiful nature-inspired leaf pattern on her foot that looked more like henna colors than the usual tattoo dark green.

But I think after a while, I’d get sick of seeing the same design on myself. Plus, I’m not a huge fan of anything--anything!--pertaining to needles.

Do you have a tattoo? A feather on your foot? A star behind your ear? A little anchor on your wrist? Or are tattoos taboo to you? They’re such little mysteries and works of art.

*Photos courtesy of bestsoylatte.blogspot.com.

Thursday, September 6, 2012

Craving fall

I love summer, but I'm officially craving sweater-and-boots weather. It even rained this morning on my drive to work...such a tease! 

Happy September, by the way. I spent Labor Day weekend visiting my best friend Kimmy in her new house in Bishop. We ate pastries, went beer tasting and floated down the river. (Pictures to come!)

The weekend felt like summer, but now I'm ready for leaves and pumpkins...bring on autumn. :) 

Tuesday, August 28, 2012

Echoes: living simply


Let’s talk about money. I think everyone has a love-hate relationship with it. But the absolute best ever advice I’ve ever heard about saving money wisely is:

“Live above your needs and below your means.”

Of course, it’s not always easy. In fact, my first blog post ever on The Tori Story was actually about the difficulty of job hunting and surviving as an eager-to-succeed 20-something in today’s world.

But as fellow 20-something Ella Walker wrote, “We have our whole lives to own houses, send our future children to ‘good schools’ and go on cruises.”

She’s right. Living well in your 20s never meant living lavishly. It means making smart choices. I am thankful for my great job (however busy), good car (however rumbly), nice apartment (however small), and all my loved ones surrounding me. Simple as that!

Friday, August 24, 2012

Decisions, decisions


Ready? Go:

Chocolate or vanilla?
Bike or walk?
Soup or salad?
Shorts or jeans?
Unsweetened or nonfat?

WAIT, WAIT, I’M THINKING! I heard that the average person makes thousands of decisions each day and can make about 200 decisions per day on food alone. I’m one of those people that will stand in front of the shampoo isle in Target for a half hour smelling each one and contemplating my decision. What a waste of time.

So when I read one of author Gretchen Rubin’s “Secrets of Adulthood” in her book The Happiness Project, I thought “huh!”

Rubin eliminates this entire decision debacle by noting:

Most decisions don’t require extensive research.

This applies to smaller decisions like where to eat dinner and larger life decisions. (Should I enter a relationship? Should I take the job?) Sometimes, you just have to go for it and see what happens! You can read about Gretchen’s decision secret HERE.


* Photo from Fort Laramie, Wyo.

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Silver or gold?


Today I was thinking about jewelry. The choice to wear gold or silver can define your persona, don’t you think?

I’m a gold gal, but I refused to wear it when I was younger. Now that I’ve gotten older, though, I’ve developed a love for gold, like the rings that grace my mom and grandmothers’ hands.

I still have a lot of silver jewelry I wear every now and then, like necklaces and other gifts from family and friends. My engagement ring happens to be gold (thanks, honey!), but I know platinum and white gold are much more popular metals for wedding rings these days.

Gold is classic and elegant, but silver is bold and edgy. So, what’s your preference? Or do you wear BOTH?

P.S. That adorable Nautical Sterling Silver Anchor Necklace on Etsy almost changes my mind about silver! Those Gold Filigree Flower Earrings are also found on Etsy. 

Thursday, June 28, 2012

Simple summer joys

Picking blackberries is definitely high on my list of simple summer joys. I can't wait until they start popping up! My mom made tons of blackberry jam last year, and our family even has a special blackberry picker pole we use to grab those out-of-reach branches. We don't mess around!


P.s. My friends formed this band Foxtail a while ago. This song they made is perfect for summer afternoons driving on a curvy road with the windows down. :)

*Photos by Bry a few summers ago in Rachel's backyard.

Friday, October 8, 2010

A Creation Story

Once upon a time, there was no world at all; there were just boxes and boxes of people under the sky, waiting to be opened. None of them knew each other. None of them really cared. One day they felt a great trembling in the air, so they crawled out of each box and went their separate ways. Some went east and some went west. Some went south and some went north. Some began to cry or laugh for no reason at all. Many fought with each other—over land, over food, over women. A few found love and prospered. Still, some missed their simple life inside the boxes, so they spent the rest of their breathing moments searching for their long, lost homes. When they realized their boxes would never be found, all they could do was curl up and die. And this is the way the world has been ever since.

Those who left their boxes became the wanderers and inherited the In-Between, piling road maps into vans and motor homes, guiding their lives across rest stops and road signs. Their children learned about the world by looking out windows and watching tree tops and birds and telephone poles fly by—blurry, but somehow perfect. They questioned the mysteries of the universe as they peered into the night sky. A telescope gave clarity, but no answers. They watched the solar eclipse for the first time, with its black round hole lit behind by glorious rays and concluded it looks somewhat like a dark, watchful eye.

Eventually some wanderers settled down, gathering in pews or around dinner tables. Their lives were written in windowsill words, thousands of pages written in silence. To the wandering settlers, writing words from the windowsill came just as naturally as bottling up shadows, and this is what many of them did. Some of them broke away and manufactured love, over and over again until it became mechanical pulp, robotic kisses on top of the dog’s head. They wrote the dark poetry, the wrenching back-alley murders. They dug deep within their souls and pulled out balls of grime and wadded hair, dreamed of killing, of avenging blood and tears. They rode the streets on rotting bicycles, crashing into the corners of the world, dreaming of an escape. Dreaming once again of the boxes their ancestors spoke of—the comforting encapsulation. Their pain was channeled into working, so they built more sky-scratchers and spread their wealth into rivers of concrete, glistening with glitter that once came from stars.

Thursday, October 7, 2010

Generation Why, Why, Why?

Why finding a job as a twenty-something college graduate is more difficult than ever...


No one gets excited about jury duty. But there I was, clutching the summons in my hand like it was a ticket for the Polar Express. Last time I received the notice in the mail, I gladly sent back my excuse: I am a full-time college student not living in my hometown. But now I have no excuses. Pitifully, shamefully, I felt relieved to get out of the house and resurged with a new sense of purpose as a citizen.

My dad laughed and said, “you are now the perfect jury candidate: twenty-something, unemployed, and living at home.”

He forgot to mention frustrated.

Indeed, I am twenty-two years old, trying to jumpstart my career in the horrific traffic jam of a broken-down economy. I graduated from college in May, did some traveling abroad and then enthusiastically entered the cyclone of job hunting along with my peers. Nearly three months later, my enthusiasm has turned to resentment.

So far, I’ve done everything correctly in my life, following that certain yellow-brick path of “success” that the world told me I should follow: work hard, stop to sing and dance, avoid the flying monkeys, and at the end of your journey you’ll find an Emerald City, glowing green with your well-earned riches. I took advanced placement classes in high school, filled my plate with extra-curricular activities, worked fulltime during the summers, and graduated magna cum laude in Journalism with a minor in photography from a California State University.

I am passionate, experienced, and geared up to go. But none of this seems to matter.

And I know I’m not alone—a thought that is more frightening than comforting. A friend of mine recently graduated with her degree in Liberal Studies and a Multiple Subject Teaching Credential. Everything about her persona and background screams “teacher” and she has applied to elementary school positions throughout California. Yet no one is hiring. In fact, out of about 20 graduates from the program, only two have landed full time teaching jobs.

The go-getters, the over-achievers, the type A personalities are all drowning in a sea of rejection letters. Something is just not right with this picture.

Countless young hopefuls like yours truly, who have settled back into our parents' houses, are living in rooms still plastered with childhood memorabilia while a pile of “stuff” from our college apartments sits in the garage. To bide our time, we are taking on part-time jobs unrelated to the career field for which we prepared. Many of us shuddered at the job market and chose to continue our education with grad school. But what about those who can’t afford more bills?